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More often than never, most people consider themselves to be good and effective communicators simply because they feel they can speak fluently.

While speaking fluently is an important aspect of communicating, yet it is not the only requirement. One should be able to listen effectively, speak fluently and clearly, write well and read in the language/s they are familiar with.


Apart from these basic aspects of communications, one needs to keep in mind the non-verbal aspects too, in order to be considered adept in communication skills.

The fact is that one needs to constantly work towards developing effective communication skills. And primarily they need to overcome the barriers to effective communication. And this can be done when they are aware of the barriers and shortcomings.

This is in fact the first and foremost primary step to being good communicator. Given here are some of the barriers that occur in communicating effectively. Understanding these barriers will help one comprehend examples of communicating skills. After all breaking down barriers implies setting good examples...

The verbal barriers are:

Attacking :
Interrogating
Criticizing
Blaming
Shaming

You messages :
Moralizing
Preaching
Advising
Diagnosing
Endorsing Power
Ordering
Threatening
Commanding
Directing

Shouting
Name-calling
Refusing to talk


The non-verbal barriers are:
Flashing eyes
Rolling eyes
Quick movements
Slow movements
Arms crossed
Legs crossed

Gestures out of exasperation
Slouching
Hunching
Lack of personal hygiene
Doodling
Avoiding eye contact
Staring at people
Over fidgeting